We often find it difficult to come up with words to comfort someone who is grieving.

I recently sent an Oblate Sympathy card to Bp. Michael Pfeifer, O.M.I. when I learned about the death of his older brother, Ted. For Bp. Michael, Ted was more than a brother, he was also a hero.

Ted was born five years before his younger brother and in many ways Michael followed in his brother's footsteps. They both became Missionary Oblate priests and both were foreign missionaries in Mexico.

Fr. Ted in MexicoFor 44 years Fr. Ted ministered in some of the poorest and remote mountain villages of Mexico. He fulfilled all of the spiritual needs of the people, and much more. Father Ted was at times a mechanic, a carpenter, a doctor who delivered hundreds of babies and a dentist who pulled thousands of teeth.

Father Ted was much loved by the people in the mountains. But he was hated by drug lords when he started turning over information about murders in the mountains to authorities. One time Fr. Ted was ambushed by gunmen while driving his Jeep. When he made it to safety he found 12 bullet holes in the roof, just inches from his head.

In 2011, Fr. Ted suffered a stroke and moved to San Antonio, Texas. His younger brother, now BP. Michael, also moved to San Antonio. They often prayed together, including the intentions of Oblate friends like you. Bishop Michael was by his brother's bedside when his hero took his final breath.

Father Ted was buried at the Oblate Cemetery, just a short walk from his brother's office. At his burial, a small "Teddy" bear was put on the grave, an appropriate symbol for someone who was a bear of a man when it came to helping the poorest of the poor.

I know that the Oblate Sympathy card that I sent to BP. Michael was a comforting way for him to remember his brother. Who in your life could use the gift of comfort?


The Missionary Oblates of Mary Immaculate will remember you and your loved ones in prayer. Send your petitions in to be remembered in Mass

Have the name of a deceased loved one placed on the Missionary Oblates' Sympathy Prayer Chain. They will be remembered in prayer by Oblates and friends around the world.

Sympathy Devotional Gifts

Remembrance Bedside Angel    Angel Wing Wrap Bracelet/Necklace    Jesus Embrace Pink Rosary   Always With Us Gift Set

Sympathy Cards

Forever in our Memory Card     Wishing You Comfort & Peace Card    

Votive Candle

A Votive Candle will be lit in memory of the departed loved one. The deceased will also be remembered in Mass at the National Shrine of Our Lady of the Snows and at our three communities for elder and infirmed Oblates, including the one where Fr. Ted lived his final years.

Votive Candles    

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